It’s the month of love. Cupids and arrows fill the air, but we know that over 50% of all marriages fail, so tonight we’ll focus on ways to enhance relationships to increase the statistical likelihood of making your relationship fulfilling and enduring.
· 50 % of first marriages end in divorce
· 2/3 of all second marriages end in divorce
· 75% of all third marriages end in divorce
Why do so many marriages fail?
· Statistics shows that we enter relationships with poor skills for maintaining relationships
· People need to learn “how” to love each other
· Lasting marriages involve commitment, communication, and accommodation
What do studies show are the proven building blocks in a couple’s intimacy?
· Studies at Stanford University show that the simple act of spending quality time together and talking enhances intimacy
· Humor: research shows that partners who make each other laugh are happier, in fact, it also shows that women typically search out men who make them laugh
· Doing something new. A Florida State University study shows that people who do new things, and plan adventures together tend to heighten a couple’s intimacy and vulnerability with each other
· Multiple research studies show that practicing gratitude and kindness in relationships enhances intimacy and bonding. Kindness, accommodation and forgiveness are three keys to strong relationships for couples.
· Commitment. Purdue University studies show that those who believe that their partner’s commitment is unbreakable have stronger relationships and increased intimacy.
· Taking control. Partners who really work on enhancing their relationships on a continuous basis, and who indicate that working things vs evading problems have more enduring relationships and those in which they feel will end in continued success.